Couples Therapy

Let's level. Relationships are hard. We have so much information around what we should do, how relationships should be and what we should feel. However, this is often paired with difficult or insufficient blueprints for positive relationships. Maybe you are getting stuck in the same arguments and not understanding each other. Or you feel alone but you want to be working as a team. Perhaps life events have changed you both and you're not sure who you are or what your relationship looks like now. Couples therapy can help. As an experienced therapist working with couples within the NHS, I have seen how transformational support can be. However, due to demand, waiting lists limit the access to interventions.

How do we start?

I try to make sure everyone feels heard, given space and not blamed.
We focus on individual goals for therapy - what you are hoping for and commiting to rather than the change you want your partner to make.
We build up strengths, noticing difficulties as well as positives. This reminds you of the bond you have and gives perspective and a foundation.
You may each have a different idea of where you are at with the relationship. We set aims at the beginning of the work, but it is OK if the goal is not to stay together.

What might we do in therapy?

We use past experiences, from our original families, to get a sense of where each of us are coming from - exploring the blueprints for our expectations and actions.
We say the problem is the problem, rather than one person being the problem - this creates distance from the pain so we can see it more objectively and work together to understand more.
We look at the stories we tell ourselves about the actions of our partner. We consider different stories and what that could mean about the relationship.
We can work with conflict in the therapy room but I will provide safety and leadership with this, and limit it in order to do the real work (I don't want to waste your time when you could do this by yourselves at home!).
We may get creative in order to find a new perspective or better explain/explore what we really feel.
We talk, we might cry and laugh. We figure out what the actual problem is and how to communicate differently - how to state our needs, ask for time outs, and understand why we respond the ways we do.

Online or In Person?

There are benefits to both - home can feel safer but my therapy room can provide neutral ground.
Online provides flexibility if you are travelling or do not live in Liverpool. It requires a quiet, private space with good connection.
Recent studies from 2024 and 2025 consistently show that the therapeutic alliance (the bond between the couple and the therapist) is just as strong online as it is in person. In fact, many couples report feeling more empowered because they are the ones "hosting" the session in their space.

Ultimately, I will work with you to help rebuild, rediscover or remember the relationship you would like. Book a free consultation call to chat things through.

Sessions start at £150 for a 1 hour session (£200 for 7pm onwards)