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You’re both capable, thoughtful people. You manage demanding careers, navigate complex decisions, and probably solve problems all day long. From the outside, your relationship might even look like it’s working. So it can feel confusing—and quietly unsettling—when you keep having the same arguments at home. Not explosive, dramatic rows. More like recurring misunderstandings. Conversations that go in circles. Moments where you feel unexpectedly alone, even sitting right next to

Internal Family Systems (IFS) – What Is It? Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a therapeutic model developed by Richard Schwartz. It is gaining recognition as an evidence-based approach for addressing various emotional and relational needs. At its core, IFS suggests that we all have different parts within ourselves, each developed to keep us safe. Some of these protective mechanisms may have been helpful at one time but can now hold us back. Understanding Our Parts In IFS, ther

Birth trauma is a scary and overwhelming event for the parent going through it, as well as the other parent. It affects people in myriad ways. Here, I will discuss some relational difficulties that might occur, what to be aware of, and how to help heal these ruptures. I always recommend talking with a therapist, but you may feel ready to have some of these conversations between you. This list may help you recognize what is going on and feel less alone. Understanding Birth Tra

Healing relationship ruptures after birth trauma is possible—though it often takes time, patience, and intentional effort. Here are some simple, practical techniques you can use to begin repairing connection and supporting each other. [These are not exhaustive or a replacement for professional help.] Healing relational ruptures post birth trauma is possible 🗣 1. Schedule Gentle Check-ins What it is: Set aside 10–15 minutes regularly (daily or weekly) to ask each other, “How

Healing from trauma can feel like navigating a maze in the dark. You want to find your way out, but the path isn’t always clear. I’ve walked numerous people along this path, and I want to share some effective trauma recovery techniques that can help light the way. Whether you’re dealing with personal wounds or relationship struggles, these approaches can offer comfort, clarity, and real progress. Understanding Trauma Recovery Techniques Trauma recovery isn’t a one-size-fits-a

Finding a therapist can be a minefield and totally overwhelming. As a practitioner, I get confused with different modalities and I've struggled to find fhe right person for therapy for myself. Here are a few suggestions and things to think about in the process of finding a therapist: Make a list of things to think about: What you are looking for support with - is it a specific issue or general sense of doom/difficulty? Do you want face to face or online sessions - online can