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Internal Family Systems (IFS) – what is it? Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a model of working developed by Richard Schwartz and gaining recognition as an evidence base for helping with a variety of needs. At its core, it is the idea that we have lots of different parts of ourselves, all of which develop to keep us safe. Some of these ways that we try and keep ourselves safe may have been useful at one point but perhaps are now holding us back. There are parts we try suppres

Birth trauma is a scary and overwhelming event for the parent going through it, as well as the other parent. It affects people in a myriad of ways. Here I am going to speak to some of the relational difficulties that might occur, what to be aware of and how to help heal these ruptures. I would always recommend talking with a therapist, but you may feel ready to have some of these conversations between you – or this list may help you recognise what is going on and feel less al

Healing relationship ruptures after birth trauma is possible—though it often takes time, patience, and intentional effort. Here are some simple, practical techniques  you can use to begin repairing connection and supporting each other. [These are not exhaustive or a replacement for professional help.] Healing relational ruptures post birth trauma is possible 🗣 1. Schedule Gentle Check-ins What it is:  Set aside 10–15 minutes regularly (daily or weekly) to ask each other, “Ho

Healing from trauma can feel like navigating a maze in the dark. You want to find your way out, but the path isn’t always clear. I’ve walked numerous people along this path, and I want to share some effective trauma recovery techniques that can help light the way. Whether you’re dealing with personal wounds or relationship struggles, these approaches can offer comfort, clarity, and real progress. Understanding Trauma Recovery Techniques Trauma recovery isn’t a one-size-fits-a

Finding a therapist can be a minefield and totally overwhelming. As a practitioner, I get confused with different modalities and I've struggled to find fhe right person for therapy for myself. Here are a few suggestions and things to think about in the process of finding a therapist: Make a list of things to think about: What you are looking for support with - is it a specific issue or general sense of doom/difficulty? Do you want face to face or online sessions - online can